The Importance of “Being Normal”

The Importance of “Being Normal”

I’m probably preaching to the choir here (I hope..) with this post, but it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot lately…

You ever met a guy and within a few minutes of talking to him you get the feeling that something isn’t quite right there? Kinda like he’s the type of guy that spends his weekends stuffing road kill and listening to Tiny Tim on repeat?!

I certainly get messages from these kind of guys all the time and it got me thinking about writing this post; the importance of being a normal guy if you want to become better with women! [1]

It’s no coincidence that these kind of guys end up finding the pickup community, hoping that learning a few openers, spikes and qualifiers will negate the fact that they are a fucking weirdo and that the girl won’t notice. Unfortunately for them, women are highly perceptive creatures and see through bullshit straight away, often leaving the guy angry and frustrated that “this pickup stuff doesn’t work!”

And even if the guy somehow manages to sleep with a girl, once she does realise who he really is beneath the mask, her interest will evaporate faster than a fart in a fan factory.

You see, learning pickup, whatever style you go for, is just the acquisition of new social skills that should complement an already solid foundation i.e. you should already be a well-rounded individual or at the very least be aware of the areas of your life that need addressing and be actively working on them.

“Excuse me, I know this is random but you look very French..”

Learning pickup alone without addressing the other areas of your life reminds me of the saying “you can’t polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter.” Sure you might have perfected ten minutes of material that gets you on a date with a girl, but once she see’s past the glitter, it’s going to go downhill pretty quickly.

Part of the reason I had a lot of early successes when I started my daygame journey is due to the fact I was already a pretty normal guy. Chatting to Krauser recently, he highlighted that it seemed as though I was never “pussy repellant.”

For most normal guys that get into pickup, they end up coming to the realisation that pickup is just one facet of a much bigger package and so work on other areas of their life in tandem with learning pickup skills. You’ve probably all heard the phrase “game is a trojan horse.”

The problem for the guys I’m on about is often they’re completely oblivious to the fact that they have some gaping holes in their foundations and the fact that in the pickup community it’s more marketable to promote short-term quick fixes e.g. lines/routines than to tell a guy he has some serious long-term work to do on himself.

So for guys who are struggling to improve their success with women despite learning some game, here are some signs you’re probably a bit of a weirdo:

  • You struggle to maintain friendships/relationships outside of the pickup community.
  • You have no hobbies and interests outside of the pickup community.
  • You have no goals or a mission outside of the pickup community.
  • You spend a lot of time bitching and arguing online.
  • You believe you are perfect and can’t take advice.
  • You constantly blame others for your failures and can’t accept responsibility.
  • This post triggers you 😉

And if any of the above does apply to you, then really consider the message of this post and sort it out!

1. By normal I don’t mean you have to be the typical blue collar, 9-5 type guy or be like everybody else, but there are some fundamentals you do need to have. See above.



3 thoughts on “The Importance of “Being Normal”

  1. A lot of pick up coaches are weirdos as well as students tbh.
    Maybe even more so in some instances.
    The whole becoming normal thing is really key, I agree completely and it’s why guys like yourself, beckster, tusk and a couple others would most probably wipe the floor with more ‘technical’ coaches i think.
    Because wearing a ‘mask’ or adopting a different personality/routine for various situations is strange and leads to more weirdness in the end.
    Just look at rsdtyler, mystery or a couple of uk based ones that I won’t name. It’s obvious there’s an act going on.
    The truth is most guys in the community get worse until they do the basics well and give up micro analysing every little part of the interaction.

    1. I’ve been accused, accurately, of not being genuine by women. They felt it was an act, or “not me”, and so I definitely wasn’t “normal”. TBH they are right…it is my version of hind/forebrain conflict but red/blue pill version of me. I’ve probably done about 700 approaches so AA is going down.

      One thing is a reoccurring pattern though. I either SDL/1st Date Lay or I never hear from these girls again.

      Craig I heard you had a similar issue. Do you have thoughts on this?

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